Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again

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It's also beginning to be a red flag when someone has a widely popular ministry, as Biblical Truth is generally not met with a wide appeal. At times, it was helpful and enlightening as she used scripture and biblical stories to illustrate her topic.

I have held many things in my hands, and I have lost them all; but whatever I have placed in God’s hands, that I still possess. Freedom to discover what's inside without worrying it will label us with issues or scare the other one away. With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of 1,000 hours of study, Lysa will help youlearn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they're sorry;walk through a step by step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today;discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now;identify what's stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead; anddisempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.She wanted to get back with him so she had to learn how to forgive him and she teaches us from her experience. I found that the the book relied on a lot of personal examples in Lysa’s life and not enough Scripture and Biblical truth to back up the statements she made throughout it. Instead, I choose to place my trust in who He is and declare Him good in the midst of all the unknowns. This book was probably the best counseling I ever received, and it cost me less than a single session of therapy! Each year, Lysa is a featured keynote presenter at more than 40 events across North America, including the Women of Joy Conferences and the Catalyst Leadership Conference.

I'm also aware TerKuerst ended up divorcing her husband after the publication of this title, so any positives she mentioned in her story feel inauthentic. The only redeeming portion of this book is the afterword, which looks at actual Scripture focusing on forgiveness, with snippets of teaching from sound, expository preachers such as Spurgeon. My ability to heal cannot be conditional on them wanting my forgiveness but only on my willingness to give it. But I will not negotiate excuses or navigate exceptions with lengthy explanations that wear me down emotionally. Her story moved me in such a way that I’m now recounting my own hurts and finding them like tiny pieces of dust I can sweep away with a cloth.And I will definitely refer back to her list of verses that catalog the importance of forgiveness for all believers.

Just that alone was so helpful and validating for me, to help me realize that I *have* forgiven, but the reason I still struggle is because I need to continue to forgive xyz for the impact of how what they did continues to effect me. Her advice involves “collecting the dots” (knowing one’s story), “connecting the dots” (understanding the past and how it influences the present), and “correcting the dots” (changing perceptions to see things differently). This book kept my attention and it has so much in it about what is actually going on with me in my life. The more humble we become, the quicker we desire to submit to God, resist the devil, and make sure the words we use contain godly wisdom and not bitterness and selfishness. I mean I could have figured that out by googling the author, but I didn’t I just downloaded it and started reading.I also walked away from reading this book and completing the Bible study with little insight as to how to forgive others and found it odd that one of the biggest issues for Lysa to forgive was simply glossed over and the reader was left guessing that everything worked out. TerKeurst’s fans will love this stirring, realistic look at confronting the arduous aspects of forgiveness. She challenges the: “but what if…” and reminds you that forgiveness is for you as much as it for the other person. Though for me, many of the earlier chapters kind of had me nodding along with familiarity as I read, there were still practical elements I was able to pick out of it.

I can’t promise I will always get this right, but after reading this book I have such a deeper understanding and drive to forgive what I can’t forget.Numb it away: "Never am I closer to healing than when my feelings are strong enough to motivate me to attend to them. Sometimes the only way to live at peace with some people is to remember that, while forgiveness is unlimited and unconditional, reconciliation is limited and conditional based on repentance, their willingness to be discipled, and their humility in the restoration process. The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products. Please do not refuse a shipment or ignore requests from carriers regarding duty and/or tax liability charges.